The Fight Against Lipid-Identity And Why It’s Important
You are fat.
At least, that’s what you are told. If you are being honest, that is what you tell yourself.
The problem in identifying yourself as ‘fat’ is that it becomes a part of your identity. Why is this a problem? For the same reason people who want to be rich will sometimes make a habit of telling themselves that they “are” rich. They rarely specify that they have $1,000,000 in the bank – even though that is more measurable. They want “rich” to be a part of who they are and how they identify themselves. They want ‘rich’ to be part of how they walk, how they talk, and how they think.
Therefore, for the same reason people call themselves ‘rich,’ you should never call yourself ‘fat.’ Calling yourself ‘fat’ over and over, whether out loud or in your mind, allows you to subconsciously start identifying the extra fat you carry with being a part of who you are as a person.
Think of it this way. Have you ever heard anyone say “I am the cold” or “I am the flu” or “I am allergies?” Of course not! They aren’t making it part of their identity. Everyone knows it’s something they have but not who they are. Can you imagine a world where sicknesses became part of our identity – where people would judge the character of others or themselves by whether they ever dealt with sickness? It would be ludicrous!
Secondly, traits that are a part of who you are tend to be much more difficult to mentally overcome than if we see them as external problems that need to be addressed. “I am fat” is an identity statement. “I have a higher body fat percentage than I want right now” is a factual statement. More importantly, it is a factual statement which assumes a solution is possible.
Don’t be guilty of molecular appropriation. What gives you the right to take on the identity of a molecule? Do you ever look at yourself and say, “I am water?” (Bruce Lee doesn’t get to chime in here.) Do you go around saying, “I am protein,” “I am calcium,” or “I am oxygen?” I didn’t think so. They get to be their own molecules with an identity outside of you. Why does fat have to endure us taking its identity as our own?!?!
On a seriousness note, the more you separate having too much fat from ‘being’ fat, the more you can diminish all the negative emotions that come with ‘being’ fat. ‘Being’ fat affects how you see your own value. It says that there is something inherently wrong with you that you may never be able to fix. It puts the extra fat in the same ‘inevitable’ category as your skin color or height.
However, excess fat is absolutely NOT inevitable. It’s no more a part of who you are than a cold, flu, or allergies are. You will be amazed at how differently you will start feeling and acting when you start viewing excess fat as an external threat to your health as opposed to an internal defect of your character. What do you do when you’re sick? You take immediate action in the form of medicine, eating cleaner, rest, etc. You keep taking action relentlessly until the problem is solved and you are back to full health and wellness. You research new methods on countering the symptoms or healing faster. You never feel down about yourself just because you feel down. You just do something about it.
Furthermore, if someone decides to mock you for having the flu, you see them as the odd asshole that they are. You know what you’re doing to fix the situation and they have no right to judge you and you realize that. Now, if you view the excess fat as an external problem that you are doing everything you can to fix, you can look at someone who decides to judge you as the odd asshole that they are. You know how hard you are working and you know the results have to come and they have no right to judge you AND YOU REALIZE THAT!
So stop calling yourself fat. You are not fat. You are a human. You are a complete and individual person with inherent value. You are Tom, Damion, Katie, Joshua, etc. You are strong. You are determined. You are a lot of things. But one thing you are not is fat.